Ian: You know a lot of guys after the birth of a baby we really start to feel like a third wheel. Especially when you're not having sex with your partner. And when you have a baby, you can't have sex for the first 6 to 8 weeks. A lot of guys feel emotionally disconnected. We see mom, mom she seems fulfilled. Logan: We're very fulfilled. Exhausted but we're fulfilled. Part of this is our fault because we really aren't thinking about you that much. It's not deliberate. We don't mean to leave you out or make you feel like you're not important in this family. But we're so consumed with this new life that we forget about you. Ian: Some women say, 'I feel like having a baby is like having an affair will a smaller man that smells better than my husband.' But you know, the thing is it really is a fraught time because a lot of guys will feel like a third wheel. They feel emotionally disconnected and when you feel emotionally disconnected you seek to get those emotional needs met elsewhere. Logan: Often times women don't even realize this because they are so consumed in this baby world that they're living in. They don't even realize that their husbands are needing and emotional outlet and intimacy elsewhere. So it's really important that we communicate, ongoing, communication all the time. We don't want you to feel resentful of us either especially because this is a new tricky time we're all trying to figure out. Ian: I think a guy needs to continue to stay in there and continue to be like, 'Hey, you need to give me some attention. You need to come back into this relationship a little while.' And if you're a guy and you feel like you are throwing yourself into work, your developing flirtatious friendships, or your spending all your time on Facebook, you know you need to look for some trigger signals. Logan: Also this is when we talk to our doctors about what to expect afterwards. That your partner's breasts might not be the same. The things she found pleasurable before might not feel the same now which is why she's spending so much time in this other area and with this baby. The baby is filling some of those needs for her too. Ian: I think the big takeaway is that you need to get emotionally connected with your partner. Guys, women, get emotionally connected. And if you want more information about sex in the baby years you can go to this video series, you can go to goodinbed.com, and there's also the book Sex in the Baby Years.